We are pretty well programmed to look for the blame in any situation. And of course, things go wrong and people are at fault. However, no one is infallible. Even when things have gone wrong. Even when the rug is pulled from under our feet. We have a choice: 7. Avoid blaming others
Read on to find all 8 tips and for the ‘how to’ and ‘why to’ for tip number 7. It is all coming together now, just as it should be. As you incorporate these tips into your daily routine, you will be well on your way to regaining your joie de vivre and finding the fun in your work.
- Be at peace and in silence for 15 minutes
- Clarify your purpose
- Find something or someone to inspire you
- Do something today better than you did yesterday
- Any time you feel tense – breathe deeply and be still – it will pass
- Take responsibility for your wellbeing
- Avoid blaming others (for information on ‘how to’ and ‘why to’, read on)
- Write down one thing you’ve learnt about yourself today
Avoid blaming others
It is easy to blame someone else for how we feel, or for the failing of a task, often there is justification for doing so. If someone else had done things differently the situation might never have happened. However, there is a huge downside to blaming. In doing so, we render ourselves powerless. It wasn’t our fault. We weren’t responsible. We had no option. Our hands were tied. When we dwell on blame, we are focused in the past. What should have, could have happened and the injustice of it.
No one enjoys being powerless.
Regain your power.
The situation is what it is. The events leading up to the situation have already happened. The clock can’t be turned back. You regain your power when you focus on what you can do next that will lead towards the best outcome instead of focusing on what is or was outside your control and blaming others.
This is a small shift. It absolutely does not mean allowing yourself to be a soft touch or a doormat. It just means to accept the reality as it stands and put all your energy and attention on where to go from this point forwards.
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