Step 2 – Save Time and Money By Focusing on Trust Rather than Blame

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Needs – Understanding needs and how we apply them

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We talk about ‘needs’ all the time.  At work, we talk about meeting the needs of our customers.  Yet, do we really understand what it means?

There are so many different selling models, evolved over the years to meet the current market demands.  It wasn’t long ago that the consultancy based sell was the way to go – sales people were encouraged to ask questions of the customer, in order to get to understand their world.

Today, we have entered the realms of the challenger sell.  Customers are too busy.  Many no longer have the time or the energy to spend getting the sales person up to speed with what they think and how they feel – they want the seller to have already done their research and to arrive, ready and able to articulate their problem and show them a short-cut to the solution.

Is this what the customer needs?

Does the customer need your product?  probably not.  Unless your product is unique and a matter of life or death, your product is not the customer’s need.

Does the customer need to have easy access into the services your company provides?  No.

Does the customer need you to keep them up to speed with the latest innovations?  No.

Does the customer need you to ask great questions? No.

We are not that important to a customer.  We are not what the customer needs and neither is our product or our service.

The customer needs clarity and a way forward.  They need to know that they are in control of things, on the right path and sometimes it helps to be offered another perspective because they can’t see the whole picture from where they are standing.  The customer needs attention and appreciation and the chance to achieve something.

We can help to give them these things first and foremost through heartfelt connection.  Whether we connect using the consultative sell, or the challenger sell is the process, without connection neither will be successful.

In a decade and a half, working as a roleplayer, I have been on the receiving end of thousands of sales calls, negotiations, coaching and performance reviews and in my experience, the primary indicator of success still in 2014, is the ability to connect.

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Before planning your next customer meeting, try this exercise:

List down as many things you can think of in response to these questions:

“What do I really like or appreciate about this customer?”

“What is it about this customer that I don’t like, or that I anticipate to be difficult?”

Next, convert all your dislikes into the appreciation column.

eg: “He is rude” might be converted into “He invites me to give him a fresh perspective.”  Or, “He is only interested in cost” might become “He is discerning, he needs to understand the value we have to offer.”

Now, plan your meeting bearing your answers in mind and feel the difference it makes to the way you approach the meeting.

The most productive conversations at work and at home come from the heart, not the head and they require us to have both courage and vulnerability in equal measure.

To find out more, please contact Lucy Windsor at The Performance Business 01932 888885 or email lucy@theperformance.biz

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Step 1 – Save Time and Money By Focusing on Trust Rather than Blame

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Values – Putting words into action

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So much is spoken about Values in schools, in the workplace.  However, when it comes to asking people about their own values, often they haven’t given it much thought.  Yet, whether we have thought about it or not, we are driven by our own personal values and the rules we apply to them.

When it comes to values in business, most organisations these days have a list of values that they share with colleagues and customers. These values represent the core principles that the organisation wish to adhere to and they are designed to form a vision, or a framework for the way their customers can expect to be treated by them.

Defining the values and letting everyone know about them is just the beginning of the process.

The next phase is to ensure those words are put into action. Otherwise known as ‘walking the talk’ and this can prove to be more challenging, yet not impossible.

Let’s take a typical example of a company’s core values…

  • We are passionate about what we do
  • We have integrity
  • We are accountable for our actions
  • We respect our customers
  • We ensure quality in all that we do
  • We love to work here

When a potential customer sees these values, they get a feeling for, or a picture of the organisation.  They may feel comforted and inclined to trust the company.  Yet, over time, it is not the value statements that build and maintain the trust, but how the organisation relates to that customer face to face.

Ensuring the values are aligned with the mission statement

It is absolutely vital that the mission statement is supported by the values.  If not, the risk is that either the mission statement is pursued at the expense of the values, or the values are pursued, which puts the business imperatives in jeopardy.

Live them

Before we can expect our followers (employees) to live our company values, we have to embody them ourselves.  This means putting them at the forefront of all that we do.

So let’s explore an imaginary scenario, using the example values I have detailed above.

Let’s assume you are the MD of Conglomerate Biz.  As a leader of this organisation, in stating your company values, you have also made a personal commitment in the following ways:

We are passionate about what we do – this means that as a leader, you must demonstrate your passion every day.   Passion for the products and services you offer, passion for how you operate, passion for the people you employ, including those who are not yet high performers, passion for the challenges you face, passion for the successes you have, passion for the things you could be doing better.  To have passion is to have enthusiasm, love and desire for a subject and as a leader, the best way to demonstrate living this value is to feel passionate about the good, the bad and the ugly too.   It is this passion that has the ability to embrace the bad and the ugly, and to convert them into something great with positive and well planned action.

We have integrity – as a leader of this imaginary organisation, you must demonstrate that you act honestly, honourably and sincerely as far as is possible.  You need to show that you have a good moral compass – treating your employees fairly and supporting them through periods of personal growth and challenge.  You have to show that you personally value integrity.  In other words, to do your best to operate openly without cause for others to be suspicious of your intent.  Any contrast to this raises doubt and confusion, so it is important to always speak respectfully at work and with good regard towards spouses, children, friends, clients, colleagues etc… and to be fully congruent with who you are.  Performance management is much more effective when the person being managed feels accepted, respected and understood at a personal level, which then opens the door to discuss and resolve performance matters.  This approach, together with a strong vision for a positive outcome or objective, paves the way for mountains to be moved.

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We are accountable for our actions – this starts with you as a leader first. Even if someone has done something really stupid at work, it is your response that you will be measured by. In being responsible for your actions, you need to recognise when something has triggered an emotional response in you, and when you have behaved in a reactive way.  If you can spot when you have reacted emotionally (eg: shouted, blamed, bemoaned, criticised, ostracised, ignored, humiliated etc…) and recognise that in yourself, it allows you to apologise where appropriate, and move your focus as quickly as possible towards a positive and constructive resolution. Before pointing the finger at an employee for not taking accountability, you must consistently demonstrate it yourself. A blame culture and lack of trust starts with the leaders, so if it exists in your business, you have the power to change it.

We respect our customers – in order to expect your employees to respect their customers, it is important to demonstrate your own respect and high regard for your staff, stakeholders, suppliers and customers, because that sets up a model that they can emulate out to their customers.  Respect doesn’t mean yield or be weak.  It is important to offer clear guidance and to be open about what is and isn’t acceptable and desirable, yet so much more can be effectively achieved through a framework of respect and understanding.

We ensure quality in all that we do – how can you give the best quality work environment to your employees?  What do they need to perform their jobs to the best of their ability?  What will make the difference to them?  How can you best support them so that they can be even more successful?

We love to work here – what reasons do your staff have, above and beyond the obvious pay cheque at the end of the month, for ‘loving’ to work here?  What can you do to give them good reason to love working here?  Why does anybody ‘love’ to do anything?  Most people love to be in a place where they are learning and contributing in a way that makes a difference, but what that looks like depends on the person, so it is important to know them as individuals and to give them what they need in order for them to ‘love to work here’.

As MD at Conglomerate Biz, you now have a really deep understanding of the personal commitment behind the values that allows them to be really embodied across the organisation.  Values are so much more than words on a wall.

Help your employees to align your corporate values with their personal values

Values run pretty deep inside us, even when we haven’t consciously decided on what our values are.  They drive our behaviour, and when we feel our values have been violated in some way, we can have a pretty dramatic reaction.

If you are struggling with an employee who isn’t living up to your company values, who is behaving in a negative fashion, or just not very enthusiastic, then there is something adrift, which is more than likely to be due to a misalignment.  Either they are picking up on incongruences, or they are finding it difficult to align them with their personal values in some way.

When this happens, it is important to act quickly, before it festers and grows.  Get talking.  Find out where the misalignment might be without being judgemental and then work with them, not against them to break through it.

Lucy Windsor is a Dramatic Breakthrough Coach and Head of Roleplay at The Performance Business.

Is your organisation built on Trust?  Call us on 01932 888885 for a free consultation.

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What Planet Are You On?…How to Become an Out of this World Leader

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My name is Michael McNulty and I am a Time Traveller.

And I hear you want to be an Out of this World Leader?

That’s a bit of a mouthful to say, so let’s call them O(ut of this) W(orld) L(eader)s – OWLs.

Wise in so many ways.

Fear not, World Weary Humanoid, I am here on this small planet (let’s call it Planet Habit) to prepare you for Real Leadership in a way that doesn’t ask you to fit a mould that has been handed down from the annals of a Business School or an American Institution. We are going to get there through a much more exciting medium.You may well be a bit cynical about the prospect of yet another blog on Leadership. It sounds so corporate doesn’t it? How about this one: Authentic Leadership. Yawn.

Through Interplanetary Time Travel.

We are going on a fantastic interstellar journey – The objective?:

  • To give you clarity.
  • To lighten your load.
  • To take away your fear.
  • To release your Power through the stories that are hidden within you
  • To ignite your curiosity.
  • To encourage you to be generous and give, give, give.
  • To uplift you into being a Time Traveller too.
  • To inspire people around you to become Time Travellers too.

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Out of this World Leaders (OWLs) are by definition Time Travellers. They have a compulsion to travel in order to Learn, Feel and Understand.

Two Fundamental Journeys
Enlightened Time Travellers understand that there are 2 types of journeys.
– The Journey Within (The Inner Universe)
– The Journey Without (The Outer Universe).
Time Travellers need to know that their journey is fuelled by the questions that they ask of themselves and of others.

This is our voyage.

We need to delve into the past, the present and future in order to find the answers. To be Intergalactic OWLs we need to take 8 small steps and 1 giant leap to gain our Universal Wings.

The most important power that you are armed with are the stories that rest within you. Some of you will be at an advantage in that you have already discovered the Power of the Story. Others will discover them on our journeys. During each mission you may be required to use this power in order to succeed.

We will travel vast distances through light years of events, and also tiny distances into the microsystem of our own mind – to learn, feel and understand our own beliefs, values, habits. All to be shaken up and challenged. Questions that we ask will include:

  • How much do we know about ourselves?
  • How much do we know about other people? Why should we be bothered?
  • What am I going to do with this knowledge?
  • How does all this help me to become an Out of this World Leader (OWL)?

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If we were all the same, then I would stay at home, and be content to sit on my sofa and watch repeat episodes of Star Trek. Or Red Dwarf.

But because we are so different – so diverse, multi-faceted, infinitely layered with our own life experiences, then it becomes a drug that I am completely addicted to – and possibly the only drug in the Universe that does you good – the Elixir of Curiosity, Imagination and Action – otherwise known as the Time Traveller’s Tipple – See you sometime at TTA (Time Travellers Anonymous).

  • Imagination and Action
  • Time and Space
  • You and Everyone Else

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We all have a Past, Present and Future. So much of it is forgotten, overlooked or unknown. So much of it requires the Time Traveller to go and explore it – perhaps from a different angle.

  • Who’s got the map? How do we navigate around this unknown territory.
  • Who are you?
  • What Planet are you on?
  • What makes you tick?
  • Why do you see things that way?
  • How do I get to understand you?
  • What fires you up?
  • When are you in your flow?

All OWLs have travelled a similar journey. Not only that, but by definition (because I have been inspired by them) they have been able to tell the story of their journey.
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This is where we are going to travel…

Mission 1: Journey to the Centre of your Earth

When you get out of bed you might sigh – you are already carrying a heavy load – undefined, shadowy, cumbersome.

Challenge: You need to understand what fires you up and turbo charge your way towards clarity.

Mission 2: Crossing the Time Continuum

Because you are unsure, you become introspective and lack the curiosity you need to interact with others – you resort to automatic greetings and ignore the signals that other people send you. Your world stops spinning and you become stagnant in a robotic trance, day by day by day.

Challenge: You need to visit a few planets to fix on a mission that will surprise and delight the aliens around you.

Mission 3: Time and Space

In order to avoid the fundamental questions that you haven’t yet answered, you fill your day with busy-ness. This then restricts you from having to think too hard about the big picture and you think gives the impression that you are really important because you have filled your day with multiple tasks.

Challenge: Take your time. Be still. Give yourself a chance to learn, feel, understand.

Mission 4: Sixth Sense

Because you now don’t have any time you follow this routine day in day out. Your comfort zone is fixed. You never take any risks. You haven’t got the time. You aren’t in touch with your senses: those physical ones of touch, taste, sight, hearing and smell but also that sixth sense of intuition – the sense that is informed by our past experience as well as something unknown within us – inherited or delivered by aliens who are ever-present. Ignore it at your peril.

Challenge: To feel the force and trust in your potential for becoming extraordinary – a risk taker of universal proportions!

Mission 5: We Come in Peace

You are going to meet some scary aliens out there: many who will challenge your claim that you are an OWL – who are you to claim such a thing?

Challenge: To become at peace with who you are and who your aliens are. To get them off your back and by your side.

Mission 6: Take Me To Your Leader

Because you are not used to giving unconditionally, it will feel uncomfortable at first and you risk going back to old introspective habits. You will also feel uncomfortable at the number of alien followers who will seek you and praise you.

Challenge: To welcome this new found attention and celebrate it with your new followers and supporters

Mission 7: Infinity and Beyond

You are now an Interplanetary Hero – but you must remember that a hero is there to serve and you must find ways to keep giving.

Challenge: You need to sustain the habit of Giving and Growing

Mission 8: You are the Commander of your StarShip

You now have the tools, skills and habits that enable you to command your own Starship

Challenge: What is your brand? What is your legacy? Are you still on their planet even when you are not present?
So, check your equipment, strap yourself in and be ready to journey to places you have only been to in your imagination.

This is Starship Storyteller to Ground Control. We are ready for lift off!!!
Tune in next week for the 1st Mission: Journey to the Centre of Your Earth

See you next week!
Mike

Save Time and Money by Focusing on Trust rather than Blame

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This is a big issue at work.  When the project is delayed, when the cost is higher than expected, when the customer is unhappy, when the **** has really hit the fan, who is to blame?

Trust in some organisations is a paper thin veneer.  It doesn’t take much at all before people begin to point the finger by way of self-preservation.  When we are working day in day out in this type of culture it feels very unsafe to us.  And what happens when we feel unsafe?  Our need for security becomes our prime focus.  So much so that it can become difficult to maintain clarity and be open to ideas and useful suggestions.  We see everything as a potential threat.

In fact, this issue is not just prevalent in work organisations.  It runs right through society at all levels and manifests in many different ways.

Why does it matter?  It matters because it directly contributes to:

  • workplace stress
  • procrastination
  • limited achievement
  • reduced enjoyment
  • increased cost
  • decreased productivity
  • disaffected staff
  • disaffected customers

Trust within the organisation, or the lack of it, directly affects the bottom line.  So who’s responsible for creating Trust?  Is it the Board?  Or, can we all be empowered to cast our net of trust and create a better working environment?  How do we change the dynamics in the workplace and create the trust?

  1. Values – putting words into action
  2. Needs – understanding needs and how we apply them
  3. They’re wrong! – investigating blame and knowing our triggers
  4. Stress factor – physiology and how to stop resisting reality in order to change it!
  5. Group dynamics – how they work
  6. Empowerment – owning the trust
  7. Magnetism – how to change the environment around you

Over the next 7 weeks, we will explore each of these in more detail here, so lots of great content coming your way!  If you would like to know when there’s new insightful content for you to enjoy, please make sure you let us have your email address before clicking away.

To find out how The Performance Business can help  you and your business, please call us on 00 44 (1) 932 888 885.

Have a great week.

Lucy x

Lucy Windsor is a Partner in The Performance Business.  She is also a Dramatic Breakthrough Coach and heads up our Roleplay division.

From Brand Values To Increased Profit

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Most businesses of any size take time to carefully create their mission and their values, and to promote these to employees and clients.

Employees are expected to live the company values and more and more, key performance indicators tend to incorporate these goals.  Customer Satisfaction Questionnaires and Employee Engagement Surveys also reflect the mission and values in order to develop and enhance the corporate identity.

Values are often found up on the walls as a reminder – in Reception areas, the cafeteria and meeting rooms.  They serve as a quick prompt for clients and staff alike that this is what the organisation is about.

Even with all this activity and investment, only a very few companies actually deliver on their mission and the values they promise at every level of the organisation.

What is it that makes the difference?

  1. Congruence – walking the talk

No matter what our company mission or values are; how we behave towards our clients and our staff day in day out is what really matters.  Corporate values are vital.  They give everyone clarity – what to aim for, what we stand for.   But, they are just words and words alone count for very little unless we embody those words in everything we do.

When we create our mission and our company values, we have to be congruent with them and live them ourselves at a personal level day in day out.

We must also ensure that our values are congruent with our commercial aspirations.

  1. Alignment – what’s in their hearts

It is not always easy for employees to take company values to their hearts, despite all efforts from the business.  Employees often find it difficult to adopt them, not because they are negative people, or wrong or disloyal even.

Often the reason people don’t or can’t live the company values with the conviction we would like, is because they feel that at some level they would be going against or setting aside their own values or needs in some way in order to do so.

When an employee can feel directly and personally aligned to the corporate values, there is trust, understanding, motivation and a real energy to live and breathe them.

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The most successful organisations understand these two factors and you will see their mission and their values running through everything and everyone like a word running through a stick of seaside rock.

The litmus test: get someone independent to your organisation to ask a random sample of employees from different functions what your company values are without looking them up!   Enthusiastic responses, encompassing the essence of your values, even if they use different words, confirms that you are indeed building the culture you wish to promote.

For help on converting Values into Profit call us on: 0044 1932 888885 – The Performance Business – building reputations, cultivating loyalty, creating wealth.

Lucy Windsor is a Partner in The Performance Business, a Dramatic Breakthrough Coach and has headed up our Roleplay team since 2001 after a successful career in IT Services Industry. 

 

Performance Measurement – 9 costly mistakes that leaders make and how to avoid them:

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This is a very hot topic right now, as it seems that everyone is being measured, every day in some way or other – giving organisations the vital statistics they need to inform their business decisions.  There are a wealth of products available that fit most business budgets.   This quest for measurement has snowballed over the last couple of decades to meet the needs of a volatile economy and the more dynamic nature of business today.   Yet it comes at a hefty cost for many companies in the form of collateral damage – workplace stress, disengagement and performance issues.

9 Mistakes and how to avoid them

1.   Messaging – often measurement tools are employed to ‘fix a problem’.  For instance, to encourage more understanding between team members; increase sales wins, improve customer satisfaction stats, or improve communication skills; putting the right people into the right jobs.

When we focus on fixing the problem, we tend to use words that express what is wrong and needs to be changed.  This type of messaging can create anxiety in those who are about to be put through the process.  They can feel judged, doubt their worth and question their own ability.  This affects performance.

To avoid this pitfall, keep working up and away from the problem until you are working towards a vision, then make the vision your message.  What is the real ‘Why’ at a strategic level?  Perhaps you aiming to move your company from 6th position to 3rd in your industry, for instance.  Share the vision together with all the shared benefits of achieving that vision and ensure your Managers and Team Leaders do the same.  Give your staff an opportunity to picture themselves as part of the future and jump on board with a personal desire to contribute.  This keeps communication open and motivation and performance high. 

2.    Panacea – Measurement tools, psychometrics, personality tests.  These are really valuable tools and all have their place.  But it is a mistake to view them as the solution, relying on their data to make your decisions for you.

It is useful to view these tools as an objective friend.  In consulting them, you gain clarity and insight from a perspective other than your own, providing you with information that will help to inform the decisions you will make. 

They are a snapshot of now, like an x-ray.  They show up some information that you did not already know, and they give you some data to support what you may already be thinking or feeling.   These tools give you the opportunity to probe a little deeper.  Bringing to light latent talents that might be useful to your business, hidden weaknesses or anxieties that might be holding someone back from achieving their potential, and from time to time, uncovering precious nuggets of gold. 

3.   Lack of Support – It a mistake to underestimate the amount of support an individual needs when they are asked to undergo measurement at work, particularly behavioural or personality testing.  Any whiff of personal judgement or criticism and like an animal caught in a trap, many individuals will become stressed and defensive.  This impacts performance and makes it harder to gain buy in to future initiatives.

To avoid making this mistake, it is important to consider employees and future employees’ needs and prepare accordingly.  Some individuals will take the process in their stride, but for many, it will be an unnerving experience, unless their concerns are addressed.  The first priority is to give them some sense of security.  What are the likely concerns?  Do they have the opportunity to share their concerns and feel safe to do so?  What will happen?  Is their job at risk?  There may be many questions that individuals will have that they are afraid to ask.  Remember the vision and explain the purpose, the process and the follow-up.  We all need to feel valued and important.  Recognition of an individual’s unique value in the process is really helpful, alongside the benefit of the process to them.

4.   Assumptions – Under pressure and with the need to make quick decisions, it is easy to make assumptions about people.  It is unfair to look at a profile, read a briefing document, or worse believe you can accurately gauge someone’s personality type and their levels of commitment without taking time to really listen to that person’s view of the world.

Once we have formed an opinion of someone, it changes the way we listen to them.  We actually filter what we hear in order to fit our opinion.  This is probably one of the most common causes of arguments and workplace stress and the busier we are, the more likely we are to fall into this trap.

One of the easiest ways to avoid making assumptions is to really believe that everyone is doing the very best they can at all times, with what they know and the resources they have available to them.  This enables us to listen without judgement, and to address performance gaps objectively.

5.   Negative Judgements – When we measure staff performance it can be tempting to make negative judgements about a person and carry that with us, even share our judgements with others and tainting their opinion.  Unfortunately, even if we are really careful to behave ‘normally’ around the person, or when speaking about the person and ‘say the right things’, we cannot sustain our act.  Our incongruence leaks and others see it.

It is difficult for anyone to perform well when we feel that we are being negatively or unfairly judged, it is therefore paramount that we separate the person from the problem in terms of gaps in performance.   We all display desirable and less desirable behaviours, yet we are all human beings and it pays to be mindful of that.

6.   Looking for failings – It is easy to get focussed on the bad stuff.  When we do this, we can become blind to someone’s positive traits, or we simply take them for granted and let them pass unnoticed.  Sometimes it feels simpler and quicker just to point out the problem.   When we do this, we are not taking time to look after the needs of the person, limiting their ability to respond positively and make the necessary changes.

Avoid looking only for what is wrong.  Be passionate and appreciative too of all that is going well.  Present the reality as you see it constructively and offer a right to reply, remembering that today’s performance is just a chapter, not the whole book.  Describe the future goal and be specific about the timescales.  Agree the performance gaps and how to overcome them.  Accept responsibility.  If someone is failing, they either don’t understand the vision; don’t understand the expectations; aren’t motivated for some reason; feel insecure or under-valued; haven’t received the right support; are in the wrong job, or are struggling with personal issues.  This is a time to work together, not a time to blame.

7.   Generalising – Holding too much store in personality types is dangerous.  They are a useful tool and they are a great help in developing awareness of self and of others.  We don’t all think the same and it is useful to understand some of the psychology behind it.  However, they are a guide and we should not draw conclusions about a person based on their personality type and our interpretation of it, because in doing so, we tend to put people in boxes and miss out on discovering some of their greatest qualities.

If you listen out at work, there are also many other generalisations made throughout the day.  “The problem with x is…” “Why are you always xxxx…!”  “He’s such a xxx”  “She’s such a xxx!”

Generalisations are never beneficial, especially when they are negative.   They confuse the person with the situation.  When we generalise, those who hear us either agree, so the myth perpetuates.  Or they disagree and feel uncomfortable for the person being judged.  Or they feel judged themselves – if that kind of comment is being said about a colleague, what is being said about me?!

Avoid generalising.  Create an ‘alarm’ in your head that goes off if you say or hear a generalisation at work.  Don’t simply agree with a negative generalisation for an easy life.  Question it.  Understand what’s behind it.  Find out what the real issue is. Remember to appreciate the person.  Deal with the issue as it presents itself and avoid stacking complaints one on top of the other like dirty dinner plates until the pile topples over creating an even bigger and more unpleasant mess to clear up.

8.   Violating Values – When we are busy and have many demands on our attention, we often forget about values, our own and those of the organisation for which we work.   Consequently, when looking at performance measurement, it is easy, albeit unintentional, to violate the very values that we claim to live by.  This results in a disenfranchised, disengaged and demotivated workforce.

To avoid this mistake, it is important to make ourselves aware of our organisational values, as well as our own and to consistently live up to them in everything we do.

9.   Inappropriate Exposure! – There is an increasing concern about children and teenagers and their use of the internet, with some being encouraged to post up inappropriate pictures of themselves.

Having your behaviour and performance at work assessed can also feel very exposing.  Some feel vulnerable and under threat when they go through any measurement process and can worry about what information will be shared, with whom and for what purpose.  They are also unclear as to what the organisation is looking for and worry that they will be found wanting.  This affects confidence, motivation and performance and adds to the stress in the workplace.

As business leaders, we have a moral and pastoral obligation to ensure staff are not inappropriately exposed.  It is important to be sensitive to the potential fear some individuals will have and to give them some certainty.  Even if you have some very difficult messages to pass on, it is important to stay objective.  Be clear.  Explain the business vision and the importance of their role in making it happen.  Check that they have all the resources/skills/motivation/support they need to meet their objectives.  Decide a plan of action and follow through with any promises you make.

Dramatic performance breakthroughs are created strategically.  For help, call The Performance Business.  00 44 (0)1932 888885

 

 

Ergo Power

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Yesterday I had an ergo (rowing machine) test with my squad, our rowing coach watching on.  There is no hiding on a rowing machine.  The scores are there for all to see.

Yesterday’s test was high intensity 4 x 10 minutes with a 3 minute rest periods.

Having missed several training sessions due to work commitments, I worried about my fitness levels. I knew this was going to be painful.

As I sat warming up, every inch of my body was screaming at me to run!  Get out and go home and sit in front of the telly.  I was arguing with myself, resisting with all my being the inevitable pain to come; frozen by the thought that all the flaws in my technique would be lay bare for my coach to see and doubting my ability to get through the test with any form of credible performance.

My choices were:

*RUN!!! (that felt like such a comforting idea) *Feign illness (well I did have a sore hand) *do it half heartedly (at least I tried) *Do it to the best of my ability from beginning to end and accept myself just as I am with open arms and open heart.

I made a decision. to give it my all.  I made three conscious changes:

Focus – the team and winning Physicality – core strength and power My thoughts – break it down – 2.5 mins, 2.5 mins, 2.5 mins… I can do this! I will do this! I want to do this!

I’ll be honest with you, it was hard.  It hurt. It felt relentless.  I put my whole self into every single stroke. I accepted the pain.  I accepted my imperfections and I rowed  to the best of my ability.  I reminded myself that each stroke was making me stronger and I told myself “just do this stroke well, just do this stroke well”.

49 minutes later and we were done.

Relief, elation, fatigue – my face red as a beetroot and a sense of achievement in my heart. We had, each of us, faced our own personal challenges and succeeded. We were a step forward from where we were yesterday and just a step away from where we will be tomorrow.

At The Performance Business, our coaches are the catalyst for our clients to make their own dramatic breakthroughs, no matter how high the bar they have set or how difficult their challenges may be.

We provide the structure, focus and belief of success even when our clients are wanting to run in the other direction.

We all go there at times and for different reasons – the fear of not being enough.

We blame, we resist, we hide, we defend, we get angry, we get despondent, when really we need only to accept, appreciate, focus and move forward.

Lucy

To Sell Is Human – Daniel H Pink

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Book Review Classified Post, written by Nick Walker

A new book argues that persuading others to buy is hardwired into our species

Nobody has ever calculated the percentage of Hong Kong’s workforce in sales, but it’s likely in the Asia-Pacific top 10, along with the most McDonald’s per square kilometre, smartphone market penetration, and the – over the last year – Candy Crush addiction.

The business of Hong Kong is business – and a huge, though thus-far uncalculated proportion, is in sales.

To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others, by Daniel H. Pink, deals both with selling goods and services, and the all-important business of selling yourself in one of the most fluid job markets on the planet. It also covers the selling – or the pitching – of your ideas to your employee to stay ahead of the power curve.

So, like it or not, most of us are in sales, one way or another.

To Sell Is Human looks at the curious mix of art and science of selling in gratuitous detail and, in places, wry humour. There are surprises here too, such as Pink’s opinion that extroverts don’t make the best salespeople.

Here you’ll also find six successors to the “elevator-pitch”, the three rules for understanding your potential customer’s perspective, the “five frames” by which you can enhance the persuasiveness of your message, and more. The result is a perceptive and practical work with applications for job-hunting, work, even study.

But before we go any further, who is this Pink fellow? Just another US business guru-cum-keynote speechmaker? Well he’s a bit more than that. Pink’s served at the highest levels of politics and public service, having worked as an aide to US secretary of labor Robert Reich, and – from 1995 to 1997 – was chief speechwriter for former vice-president Al Gore.

Pink can write with verve. At times, he uncannily reads the mind of the reader and offers simple but compelling metaphors to illustrate a finding or concept.

Pink’s basic premise is simple. He posits that he we all spend considerable energy each day trying to get others to do what we want or request – a purchase, a new job, an agreement, a deal, sometimes simple obedience.

One professional he interviewed expressed it most lucidly. “Almost everything I do involves persuasion. Whether you directly sell products, participate in teamwork efforts, attempt to direct the behaviour of others or run your own business, you are, in effect, selling or, more specifically, moving others to do something.”

Pink reviews the historical protocol for selling and determines that it has morphed with the zeitgeist. The instantaneous access to information through the internet has completely altered the balance of power in sales exchanges. Consumers know far more, and will – in the middle of your sales presentation – look up what you just said on their smartphones. Pink’s book offers strategic advice on how to adapt to this harsher paradigm.

He tells us that far from being a world of “us and them”, we are now in some shape or form all in sales: whether it’s selling a product old-school style, selling our skills to a potential employer or selling an idea to have it supported and funded.

He argues that the first thing homo sapiens did was sell to each other. I disagree – I’m sure they had sex, discovered fire, and invented the wheel before sales become part of the human condition. But one gets his point.

“The ability to move others to exchange what they have for what we have is crucial to our survival and our happiness. It has helped our species evolve, lifted our living standards, and enhanced our daily lives. The capacity to sell isn’t some unnatural adaptation to the merciless world of commerce. It is part of who we are,” he writes.

And although he talks of “honesty, directness, and transparency” now being the more fruitful long-term route, most of us who have caught others attempting to take advantage of us will know that there are still plenty of ignorant and nefarious sellers out there – something that Pink reminds us of.

Following his view that increasing numbers of us are involved in selling, he goes on to suggest how we can be better sellers – the first step being to see “rejections as temporary rather than permanent, specific rather than universal, and external rather than personal.”

He also acknowledges the grimly inevitable. “Anyone who sells – whether they’re trying to convince customers to make a purchase or colleagues to make a change – must contend with wave after wave of rebuffs, refusals, and repudiations.”

Many of his points are reassuringly fresh. “To sell well is to convince someone else to part with resources – not to deprive that person, but to leave him better off in the end.”

All in all, a highly practical book on the crowded “How to Sell” shelf of your nearest bookstore. And head and shoulders above the competition.


MCNULTY’S ALIGNMENT PRINCIPLE

Michael McNulty, who hails from Camberley, England, and now works in London and Elmbridge, has been providing professional development advice for over a decade, through his company, The Performance Business. He echoes Daniel H. Pink’s ideas, and shares some insights of his own:

Be flexible “If you are in a meeting with a prospective buyer, they will need the opportunity to share their perspective, hopes and desires. Co-create the solution with them rather than for them.”

Be reassuring “A prospective client needs to be sure you have their interests at heart. You must understand and address any fears or concerns they have so that they can be confident that your product or service is the best option for them.”

Listen and connect “What is your client really saying? Are you sure you have really heard what is important? Are you sure you haven’t made any assumptions? If you are unsure, ask questions to clarify and check back with your prospective client. Once you are aligned with your client and their needs, you can match your products and services to give wings to the shared vision.”

Teenage Wisdom

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The other day, I had the honour of taking part in an ‘interview practice day’ at the local comprehensive school – the school that both my children attend.

I met with outstanding individuals, who were able to field even the most difficult questions with sensible and thoughtful responses.

These young people represent our future generation.  Bright and talented, each of them filled with hope and desire and passion.  Their ambition is to carve out a path for their adult selves.  A path where they are valued and contributing in their own unique way to society.

These young men and women are powered by their values and there is a genuine desire in all of them to make a positive difference in their corner of the World.

This is the third year that I have had the pleasure of this opportunity and each time, I am humbled by the grace and willingness of teenagers I meet.

My first year, I had the experience of interviewing a ‘goth’.  Or so she said.  In fact, she looked far from it to me.  She was smartly dressed in a suit, with a splash of sensible makeup, betrayed only by the fact that she approached my desk entirely without a smile – this being the only nod to her chosen identity.  We talked and she responded in a guarded fashion for a while and to be honest, it was a bit tricky to get much out of her at all.

I decided to ask about her hobbies.  This was when she shared with me her goth status.  I was interested to hear what that entailed.  She described her friends and the fact that they love nothing more than to attend special conventions in London.  As she chatted, she began to smile broadly and became engaging and animated, a pleasure to speak to.  Then, and with absolute delight she exclaimed “…and the best bit is the free hugs!”  “Free hugs?” I enquired, “What do you mean?”  The girl explained that there are several people at these conventions offering free hugs to anyone who wants one.

This was a very profound moment for me.  I had been invited in, briefly, to her world.  The one filled with love and camaraderie different to my own experience.  An unconditional acceptance within a group of people, brought together by their shared identity.

We went on to talk easily about her ambition to become a graphic designer and her passion for the subject.

At the end of the interview, the girl and I shook hands and her mask returned.  Her smile gone, she walked quietly away.  A goth in a suit.  And as I watched her leave I felt immensely privileged.

That encounter gave me an insight rarely allowed to a stranger and brought home to me so powerfully the human need that we all have inside us, whatever our chosen identity or circles we mix in, for acceptance and unconditional love.  She touched my heart.

Year 2, and again I meet outstanding teenagers, all doing their best and opening themselves up to scrutiny and critique.  Laying themselves bare to the judgement of older, more experienced, (but not necessarily wiser) adults.

One girl stood out.  Her practice interview was for a job in fashion.  When I asked about her interest, she said she had her own blog, which she used as the vehicle to share her fashion tips.  She already had over 300 followers – forward thinking for a school-girl in 2012.

This year, probably because of my own personal focus specifically over recent years, I was particularly struck by the integrity of these young people.   And what I came away with has given me an even more urgent and determined impetus in my work.

Every young person I interviewed has a very clear and strong set of values.  They are respectful, committed and loyal.  They are interested in contributing to society in a positive way.  They measure their success and personal fulfilment by their ability to do an excellent job, whilst remaining aligned to their values.

At one point during the day, I interviewed a boy interested in dentistry.  His practice interview was for the post of trainee dentist in my imaginary partnership.  He showed great promise, was eloquent and very interested in the patient experience.  He described a day’s experience he spent recently, shadowing a dentist.  In the feedback, however, he said he wasn’t entirely sure that he wanted to be a dentist, he felt he might go into medicine instead.  I explained that in an interview, he should show the interviewer that this is the job he’s absolutely committed to and passionate about over and above any other.  His response?  “But that wouldn’t be true.”  I paused for a moment and then said to the boy.  “Is there another way to show your passion without compromising your integrity?”  We came up with a solution.  Whatever job he interviews for, the important thing is to show his vision and purpose behind it.  For instance, as a dentist, he would feel passionate about giving people confidence because they would have a smile to be proud of.  This is his truth.

I am privileged in my work.  I am both a professional roleplayer and a breakthrough coach.  I observe people’s behaviour.  And I see when a person’s values are compromised.  They feel it.  They feel the immediate stress and discomfort of their own misalignment and it creates both a physical and emotional reaction.  It is visible.

Yet, in the workplace, how many leaders, managers, colleagues take the time to look out for the misalignment of values?  How often are people told to do things that they feel personally uncomfortable about and don’t feel in a position to challenge it?

I believe that there is a spectrum and we all fall along it in some way.  At one end of the spectrum, we use language that can be misinterpreted.  As with my suggestion to the boy that it would serve him well to show his focus and commitment to the role of dentist.  Yet, how many leaders in business take the time to listen to what their staff are feeling and adjust their language accordingly?

At the other end of the spectrum, after years of overriding values again and again, some appear to no longer know or care what their values are.  Hector Sants, Chief Executive of the then Financial Services Authority (now Financial Conduct Authority) during the banking crisis said in his Mansion House speech in October 2010:

“…It is crucial that we improve behaviours and judgements.  To do this we must address the role that culture and ethics play in shaping these.

“I believe that until this issue is addressed we will not be able to prevent another crisis of this magnitude from occurring again, and will never fully restore the trust of society in the financial system.”

Hector Sants and his team determined that years of erosion of values had occurred in the financial sector in the name of commercial success, to the point that ethics had become a secondary concern in some organisations and people became blind to the risks.  The repercussions of which, we are all still feeling.

Just like an addiction, drink, drugs, gambling, food, sex, money – our bodies start out trying to tell us that we’ve had enough.  We feel the physical symptoms, we feel stressed, depressed, hung-over, uncomfortable, anxious, sad, empty, alone.  Yet rather than listening to our body, we press the override button for another ‘hit’ to make us feel better.  And we press it again, and again and again…  Eventually, our body no longer knows if it’s had too much or not enough, it is just in a permanent state of stress and wanting.  In an unhealthy organisation, this feeling is magnified and it is the employees who are burdened by organisational stress and emptiness.

As a society, it would seem that we are (in the main), bringing up our young people to respect values and to trust their own intuition.  Yet as adults, too many of us will trample over our own values and the values of others on a daily basis, both at work and at home.  So much so that there are many people who would find it hard to even articulate what their values are if asked.

But whether we are consciously living our values or not, they remain key to our wellbeing, fulfilment and happiness, and our bodies will continue to give us signals whenever we violate them.  To get back into alignment with oneself delivers a sense of self-worth and freedom that can’t be found anywhere else and is probably the most important step we can take in terms of our long term health and quality of our relationships.

Lucy Windsor
Dramatic Breakthrough Coach
The Performance Business
+ 44 1932 888885

It’s Great To Be Remembered – Ideally While You’re Still Alive!

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Here’s a copy of a message that I received from Verbatim our valued virtual Assistant telephone answering service in my inbox recently:

“Message for Michael McNulty, taken by Misty at 24/07/2013 14:25:22
Client: 5585 – The Performance Business

Caller: Steve……… 
Tel: ……..

“Mr……… attended a course of yours a very long time ago. He thinks it was about 12 years ago. Ever since he has carried the yellow card with words of inspiration. The card has now become

very shabby and faded. He wanted to know if you still have these cards. Please return the call to advise. Kind Regards Misty”  

Well of course, I was flattered to think that Steve had carried this card around with him for 12 years and I would like to think that he also referred to it from time to time.

What was on the card? I’ll tell you in a minute.

Whatever was on the card, the moving feeling that I am left with is that my influence has been felt by someone who I didn’t know very well, but who had been affected by the words and actions that I had shared with him enough to not only carry the card (a yellow plastic card as it happens) but had been prompted enough to want to contact me and ask for a replacement.

So this prompted me to think about the power of what we say and do and the legacy that it leaves. As someone who has a strong spiritual affinity, the exciting and satisfying feel for me and  I hope for Steve is that the course that he attended has lived on all these years and the value has been sustained every time he not only looked at the card but also acted on what the card inspired him to do.

So what did it say?

Well, we ran a weekly course on Personal Impact ( called Inspire) and the we gave out a plastic credit card sized card with tips to make the most of every situation when you were going public, whether it be in a formal setting – in other words when you were about to extend your own persona onto a public stage; there were tips for preparing to perform. Let me share them with you now:

Preparing to Inspire…

  • Think of the big picture – outside your immediate situation
  • Visualise your audience acting on what you communicate
  • Practice being economical – less is more
  • Check the space before you communicate
  • Choreograph your message – use the space to its optimum
  • Ensure you have a Beginning-Middle-End
  • Think of clear images – ditch unnecessary data
  • Plan to ‘bookend’ key messages – Gesture-Line-Sustain
  • Decide on Entrances and Exits – be very definite
  • Be ready to respond to different atmospheres

Inspire…

  • Start with a personal anecdote – as unusual as you dare!
  • Control your message – pause if it begins to run away…
  • Repeat your key points (maximum of five) frequently
  • Dare to pause – hold it for as long as is uncomfortable!
  • Remind yourself – your audience needs to hear your story
  • Try to move without talking at the same time
  • Remember – you own the space and have as long as it takes
  • Use props to enhance your message – not to hide behind
  • Take the risk – adapt an unclear message
  • Repeat your anecdote – let your audience make the connection

Thanks Steve…is calls like that that brighten my day!

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