Tag

culture Archives - Page 2 of 2 - The Performance Biz

How To Turn A Difficult Conversation Into An Important One

By | Blog | No Comments

 pb02_website_banner_blue

lucy-difficult-conversations

“Difficult conversations tend to be those where one anticipates some form of disagreement or resistance…”

(If you prefer to receive this content via video, click on the link above).

One of the biggest fears many people have is how to approach a difficult conversation. And yet, in business, difficult conversations are inevitable from time to time.

Why do so many people find certain conversations difficult? Here are some typical answers:

  • I think they will resist what I have to say
  • I worry that I might upset or offend them
  • What if they get angry?
  • I don’t like to let people down
  • I hate confrontation
  • I feel for their situation
  • I don’t like them and would rather not have to speak to them at all
  • They might dislike me

Difficult conversations tend to be those where one anticipates some form of disagreement or resistance.

Any internal struggle you are having about how the other party may or may not respond is going to cloud your ability to be open and honest. So much so in fact, you may well be setting yourself up for a very uncomfortable meeting because your anxiety will leak out through your verbal and non-verbal language.

How might you prepare for success? VOICE might help in some situations:

Vision – Remember. If it wasn’t important, you wouldn’t need to have the conversation at all. You must be really clear about what you are going to achieve from this conversation and why the outcome is important. Share your vision with the other party in a way that makes sense to them. Make sure the vision is objective and future orientated.

Options – Use your preparation time, and your time together in the meeting to uncover any viable options. What options do you have that will deliver on the vision? What is the likely impact of those options? What is the potential impact of doing nothing?

Immovables – There may be some elements that are just not negotiable. Know what they are and make them clear to the other party (eg: Service Level Agreements must be met). Stand by your non-negotiables. Stick to the facts, be open and clear. The other party may well try to talk you around, argue with you, justify their point of view, try to convince you otherwise. Be strong, be calm, and stay resolute.

Clarity – Make sure you have clear boundaries. Know your responsibility and live up to it. At the same time, expect the other party to own their responsibility, ensuring they are adequately equipped with the training, knowledge and resources they need.

Empathy – You are responsible for your behaviour and it is important to remain calm and clear headed. If the other party becomes worried, angry, or upset, it is important to understand and address any specific concerns they have.

Turn a potentially uncomfortable and difficult conversation into an important and purposeful one using VOICE.

To find out how the EPIC approach to Leadership will help your business, click here.

Putting An End To Constant Interruptions

By | Blog | No Comments

pb02_website_banner_blue

epic-insight-blackscarf

“This was impacting his own ability to deliver on his work. So much so that he was having to take work home and work throughout the evenings and weekends to catch up…”

(To view receive this content in video format, click the photo above).

A client of mine, a Managing Director dealing with high-end customers, came to me with an important issue. One of her senior leaders was complaining because people weren’t respecting him and they were going ‘above his head’ on important matters.

This was happening over and over again in different situations. He was becoming resentful and felt he was being taken advantage of.

The Managing Director introduced us, we had an initial meeting, and got to know each other a little. I found out that he restores classic cars as a hobby. We defined his coaching goals and he asked me to help.

As we delved deeper, it transpired that he was being ‘dragged into issues’ that he felt others should be able to deal with. This was impacting his own ability to deliver on his work. So much so that he was having to take work home and work throughout the evenings and weekends to catch up. He wanted the team to recognise just how much he was taking on and for them to take him seriously, rather than escalating things to the Managing Director.

Interruptions

My client was used to being the ‘fixer’. He described to me how he fixed problems at home and he fixed problems at work. He told me ‘That’s just who I am’. However, tired and crabby, he wanted an alternative.

Boundaries

The frustration from the ‘fixer’, I’ll call him James, was the constant feeling of spoon feeding others around him. The answer lay in creating healthy boundaries. By always being on stand-by to pick up the pieces, he wasn’t empowering his team to learn and grow, instead, they were dependent on him and were losing motivation.

This is not an untypical situation. It is easy to become the ‘go to’ person. Especially if that’s how you’ve always operated. It can feel really good to be the person people rely on. Yet, when it impacts on one’s own ability to deliver and limits the teams efficiency, it is unsustainable.

Here’s a story that helped my client to see the true impact he was having on the business by continuing to be the ‘fixer’:

Imagine a dual carriageway with a light but steady stream of traffic. Then notice a high performance car towing another car and driving at 30mph in the fast lane, even though the slow lane is quite clear. The traffic is all backed up around it. Not only the vehicle’s performance is compromised, the free flow of the traffic is affected, impacting the performance of all the other vehicles in the vicinity.

Sometimes, it just takes a change of perspective to create the motivation that leads to change. This story helped James to realise how he was creating a bottle-neck by taking on so much of the work. And I know too that the same story might not achieve the same result with another client, or even with James on another day. As coaches, we get to know what matters to our clients. That way, we can communicate in a way that works for them.

Now back to James, with this fresh awareness, he committed to developing his team and I was able to share some simple strategies that helped him make the shift he wanted.

Our mission is to create happy, productive work environments that make the platform for success. If you enjoyed this Insight, please follow us and tell your friends and colleagues. You can receive EPiC Insights, like this one in your inbox every Monday. Go to the Home Page and sign up. It’s just a click or two away!

If you would like to talk about communication in your business, please call us on +44 (0)1932 888 885.

Kind regards

The Insight Team

8 of 8 ways to get into the zone and find the fun in your work

By | Blog | No Comments

Open Journal Book and Cup of Herbal Tea

This is the last in this series of 8 daily habits that will get you in the zone and help find fun in your work:  8. Write down one thing you’ve learnt about yourself today

Read on to find all 8 tips and for the ‘how to’ and ‘why to’ for tip number 8.  Do these mini rituals on a daily basis and you will find yourself in the zone and filled with energy and joie de vivre!!

Hold onto your hats – life just changed up a gear!

Daily checklist:

  • Be at peace and in silence for 15 minutes
  • Clarify your purpose
  • Find something or someone to inspire you
  • Do something today better than you did yesterday
  • Any time you feel tense – breathe deeply and be still – it will pass
  • Take responsibility for your wellbeing
  • Avoid blaming others
  • Write down one thing you’ve learnt about yourself today (for information on ‘how to’ and ‘why to’, read on)

Write down one thing you’ve learnt about yourself today

When was the last time you reflected on what you have learnt about yourself?  This exercise is personal development in a nutshell – an easy way to grow little by little each day.  After just one month doing this daily, you are guaranteed to feel so much stronger, more capable, confident and motivated!

List down one thing you have learnt about yourself today, whether it is something you are particularly good at, or something you have noticed you do that is holding you back from being the best you can be.

Then, whether you have identified a strength or area that requires some attention, commit to an action to make a positive change for the future.

Now, with a smile and a high-five, you’ve just given yourself the most valuable gift that money can’t buy.  You’re in the zone and can do more with less effort.  You hold the key to creating fun in your work and in your life!

To talk with us, call +44 (0)1932 888 885, or click here.

Step 1 – Save Time and Money By Focusing on Trust Rather than Blame

By | Blog, Values | No Comments

Values – Putting words into action

slider-5-new

So much is spoken about Values in schools, in the workplace.  However, when it comes to asking people about their own values, often they haven’t given it much thought.  Yet, whether we have thought about it or not, we are driven by our own personal values and the rules we apply to them.

When it comes to values in business, most organisations these days have a list of values that they share with colleagues and customers. These values represent the core principles that the organisation wish to adhere to and they are designed to form a vision, or a framework for the way their customers can expect to be treated by them.

Defining the values and letting everyone know about them is just the beginning of the process.

The next phase is to ensure those words are put into action. Otherwise known as ‘walking the talk’ and this can prove to be more challenging, yet not impossible.

Let’s take a typical example of a company’s core values…

  • We are passionate about what we do
  • We have integrity
  • We are accountable for our actions
  • We respect our customers
  • We ensure quality in all that we do
  • We love to work here

When a potential customer sees these values, they get a feeling for, or a picture of the organisation.  They may feel comforted and inclined to trust the company.  Yet, over time, it is not the value statements that build and maintain the trust, but how the organisation relates to that customer face to face.

Ensuring the values are aligned with the mission statement

It is absolutely vital that the mission statement is supported by the values.  If not, the risk is that either the mission statement is pursued at the expense of the values, or the values are pursued, which puts the business imperatives in jeopardy.

Live them

Before we can expect our followers (employees) to live our company values, we have to embody them ourselves.  This means putting them at the forefront of all that we do.

So let’s explore an imaginary scenario, using the example values I have detailed above.

Let’s assume you are the MD of Conglomerate Biz.  As a leader of this organisation, in stating your company values, you have also made a personal commitment in the following ways:

We are passionate about what we do – this means that as a leader, you must demonstrate your passion every day.   Passion for the products and services you offer, passion for how you operate, passion for the people you employ, including those who are not yet high performers, passion for the challenges you face, passion for the successes you have, passion for the things you could be doing better.  To have passion is to have enthusiasm, love and desire for a subject and as a leader, the best way to demonstrate living this value is to feel passionate about the good, the bad and the ugly too.   It is this passion that has the ability to embrace the bad and the ugly, and to convert them into something great with positive and well planned action.

We have integrity – as a leader of this imaginary organisation, you must demonstrate that you act honestly, honourably and sincerely as far as is possible.  You need to show that you have a good moral compass – treating your employees fairly and supporting them through periods of personal growth and challenge.  You have to show that you personally value integrity.  In other words, to do your best to operate openly without cause for others to be suspicious of your intent.  Any contrast to this raises doubt and confusion, so it is important to always speak respectfully at work and with good regard towards spouses, children, friends, clients, colleagues etc… and to be fully congruent with who you are.  Performance management is much more effective when the person being managed feels accepted, respected and understood at a personal level, which then opens the door to discuss and resolve performance matters.  This approach, together with a strong vision for a positive outcome or objective, paves the way for mountains to be moved.

slider-2-new

We are accountable for our actions – this starts with you as a leader first. Even if someone has done something really stupid at work, it is your response that you will be measured by. In being responsible for your actions, you need to recognise when something has triggered an emotional response in you, and when you have behaved in a reactive way.  If you can spot when you have reacted emotionally (eg: shouted, blamed, bemoaned, criticised, ostracised, ignored, humiliated etc…) and recognise that in yourself, it allows you to apologise where appropriate, and move your focus as quickly as possible towards a positive and constructive resolution. Before pointing the finger at an employee for not taking accountability, you must consistently demonstrate it yourself. A blame culture and lack of trust starts with the leaders, so if it exists in your business, you have the power to change it.

We respect our customers – in order to expect your employees to respect their customers, it is important to demonstrate your own respect and high regard for your staff, stakeholders, suppliers and customers, because that sets up a model that they can emulate out to their customers.  Respect doesn’t mean yield or be weak.  It is important to offer clear guidance and to be open about what is and isn’t acceptable and desirable, yet so much more can be effectively achieved through a framework of respect and understanding.

We ensure quality in all that we do – how can you give the best quality work environment to your employees?  What do they need to perform their jobs to the best of their ability?  What will make the difference to them?  How can you best support them so that they can be even more successful?

We love to work here – what reasons do your staff have, above and beyond the obvious pay cheque at the end of the month, for ‘loving’ to work here?  What can you do to give them good reason to love working here?  Why does anybody ‘love’ to do anything?  Most people love to be in a place where they are learning and contributing in a way that makes a difference, but what that looks like depends on the person, so it is important to know them as individuals and to give them what they need in order for them to ‘love to work here’.

As MD at Conglomerate Biz, you now have a really deep understanding of the personal commitment behind the values that allows them to be really embodied across the organisation.  Values are so much more than words on a wall.

Help your employees to align your corporate values with their personal values

Values run pretty deep inside us, even when we haven’t consciously decided on what our values are.  They drive our behaviour, and when we feel our values have been violated in some way, we can have a pretty dramatic reaction.

If you are struggling with an employee who isn’t living up to your company values, who is behaving in a negative fashion, or just not very enthusiastic, then there is something adrift, which is more than likely to be due to a misalignment.  Either they are picking up on incongruences, or they are finding it difficult to align them with their personal values in some way.

When this happens, it is important to act quickly, before it festers and grows.  Get talking.  Find out where the misalignment might be without being judgemental and then work with them, not against them to break through it.

Lucy Windsor is a Dramatic Breakthrough Coach and Head of Roleplay at The Performance Business.

Is your organisation built on Trust?  Call us on 01932 888885 for a free consultation.

cartoon

 

From Brand Values To Increased Profit

By | Blog, Culture, Values | No Comments

Most businesses of any size take time to carefully create their mission and their values, and to promote these to employees and clients.

Employees are expected to live the company values and more and more, key performance indicators tend to incorporate these goals.  Customer Satisfaction Questionnaires and Employee Engagement Surveys also reflect the mission and values in order to develop and enhance the corporate identity.

Values are often found up on the walls as a reminder – in Reception areas, the cafeteria and meeting rooms.  They serve as a quick prompt for clients and staff alike that this is what the organisation is about.

Even with all this activity and investment, only a very few companies actually deliver on their mission and the values they promise at every level of the organisation.

What is it that makes the difference?

  1. Congruence – walking the talk

No matter what our company mission or values are; how we behave towards our clients and our staff day in day out is what really matters.  Corporate values are vital.  They give everyone clarity – what to aim for, what we stand for.   But, they are just words and words alone count for very little unless we embody those words in everything we do.

When we create our mission and our company values, we have to be congruent with them and live them ourselves at a personal level day in day out.

We must also ensure that our values are congruent with our commercial aspirations.

  1. Alignment – what’s in their hearts

It is not always easy for employees to take company values to their hearts, despite all efforts from the business.  Employees often find it difficult to adopt them, not because they are negative people, or wrong or disloyal even.

Often the reason people don’t or can’t live the company values with the conviction we would like, is because they feel that at some level they would be going against or setting aside their own values or needs in some way in order to do so.

When an employee can feel directly and personally aligned to the corporate values, there is trust, understanding, motivation and a real energy to live and breathe them.

__________

The most successful organisations understand these two factors and you will see their mission and their values running through everything and everyone like a word running through a stick of seaside rock.

The litmus test: get someone independent to your organisation to ask a random sample of employees from different functions what your company values are without looking them up!   Enthusiastic responses, encompassing the essence of your values, even if they use different words, confirms that you are indeed building the culture you wish to promote.

For help on converting Values into Profit call us on: 0044 1932 888885 – The Performance Business – building reputations, cultivating loyalty, creating wealth.

Lucy Windsor is a Partner in The Performance Business, a Dramatic Breakthrough Coach and has headed up our Roleplay team since 2001 after a successful career in IT Services Industry. 

 

Call Now Button